The Self as the Foundation of Love

You cannot give what you do not have. Working on yourself is working on your relationships.

Esther Perel · Психология · Esther Perel Gives Advice on Intimacy, Careers, and Self-Improvement

Esther Perel

Belgian psychotherapist specializing in relationships and intimacy in the modern world.

When Desire Disappears — Esther Perel
Routine kills desire. But without routine there is no security. Therein lies the tragedy of intimacy.
The Paradox of Modern Love — Esther Perel
We seek in one person what we once sought from an entire community. And then we are surprised it is impossible.
Betrayal and the Hunger for Connection — Esther Perel
Infidelity is never just about sex. It is a search for self, for identity, for one's own story.
The Ego as Love's Enemy — Esther Perel
When we protect our ego, we destroy relationships. Vulnerability is not weakness; it is courage.
The Artificial Intimacy in the Digital Age — Esther Perel
We seek connection, but we create isolation. Technology promises us intimacy, but it delivers loneliness.
Letting Go to Love — Esther Perel
Control and love are incompatible. The ability to let go is a sign of deep confidence in a relationship.

All Music Is Folk Music — Louis Armstrong
All music is folk music. I ain't never heard a horse sing a song.
The Power of Compassion — Michael Jackson
The most important thing is love and compassion. They override everything.
Music Is Life — Jon Batiste
Music is a spiritual practice, a therapy, a way to connect us to ourselves and each other
Compromise and Conscience — Bob Dylan
I'll never sell my soul for money or fame. It's my only true asset.
The Humility of the Great — André 3000
I just play the flute in the park. I don't need a stage or an audience. The music is enough
The Soul of Music — Questlove
Soul is what makes music real. It's what people feel